The Magic of Letting Go

The Magic of Letting Go

the magic of letting go

This post could have been titled so many different things. “Letting go” is kind of vague and could refer to so many areas of life – career, relationships, self-worth, etc. I guess I like it’s vagueness. And I really like the word “Magic”. We should all believe in magic more often. The following sentences are about my personal journey in the past year, but my hope is that you can find something in these paragraphs that resonates with your own journey and inspires you to let go of something and move forward on your personal path.

I intended to publish this on August 3rd, 2016, because I wanted to reflect on everything that has happened since the last day of my corporate design job, which was one year ago, on August 3rd, 2015. I wrote about what it was like to walk away from my 6 year job as a children’s clothing designer, and 9+ years in the fashion industry, in this post. If you read that post and were wondering what I’m doing now, and if I still feel so positive about quitting…well here’s your answer.

The short Q&A. Do I regret quitting my very stable, not-at-all-terrible, college-degree oriented job? Heck, NO! This has been one of the most inspired years of my life. In order to move forward on my life path, I felt it was necessary to let go of the route that I was still on in the summer of 2015. It was the right decision for me at the time, and it still is today. Not only did quitting my job allow me to make some career changes, it also inspired me to look at other things in my life that I could let go of (namely specific HABITS/ FEELINGS/ BELIEFS). Now I truly understand that by letting go of things that no longer serve you, you’re making so much room for new opportunities to come into your life.

Here are some things I let go of this past year:

Let Go Of

  • my career job
  • financial stability 
  • the belief that asking for help is a bad thing
  • the belief that asking for ANYTHING is a bad thing
  • caring what other people think
  • caring what other people are doing
  • WORRY
  • SELF-DOUBT
  • FEAR

Full disclosure, I’m still working on a few of these. 😉 But I WORK on them every single day. Letting go of fear, self-doubt, worry about future outcomes, (really any self-defeating beliefs), was one of the best things I learned to do for myself in the past 12 months. I replaced the words “fear, self-doubt and worry” with “Courage, Confidence and Connection”. This has been my new mantra, and when I first began saying those words to myself, I honestly didn’t even believe them. I didn’t feel super confident or particularly courageous, or as connected as I wanted to feel with the people and world around me. I can tell you for a fact, whether you believe it at first or not, eventually positive self-talk like this will transform your life. Everything that has come into my life in the past year can relate back to each one of these words. There’s no particular reason I picked three”C” words (which I scribbled down in my yoga teacher training journal back in October), but maybe there’s something about that letter….just this past week I came across this quote by Walt Disney. His special secret to making dreams come true is the “four Cs”…

“Somehow I can’t believe that there are any heights that can’t be scaled by a man who knows the secrets of making dreams come true. This special secret, it seems to me, can be summarized in four Cs. They are curiosity, confidence, courage, and constancy, and the greatest of all is confidence. When you believe in a thing, believe in it all the way, implicitly and unquestionable.” ~Walt Disney

( In that last sentence, you could even replace “believe in a thing” with “believe in yourself.”) I agree that CONFIDENCE is by far the most important “C”. 😉 

By letting go of everything I listed above, and by focusing on my “three Cs” (and Curiosity too, I’m going to add that one!), here’s what I was able to experience and let into my life this year.

Let Into

  • a life-enhancing yoga teacher training in a remote mountain setting in Bali
  • a certification to teach yoga at the 200hr level
  • a complete website makeover 
  • several photoshoot gigs – engagement photos, yoga photos, ethical fashion product photos
  • establishing a mediation/gratitude/journaling morning practice 
  • traveling both SOLO and with a group of strangers for 6 weeks in Mexico, Belize and Guatemala
  • meeting and connecting with the most amazing people from literally all around the world (genuine connections made from both face-to-face interactions and social media)
  • a new passport and 5 countries visited
  • my first 2 yoga teaching auditions, which landed me my for first 2 yoga teaching jobs

I was able to let all of this into my life, because I OPENED myself up to any and all possibilities, and then I took the action steps to put myself in a place where these opportunities could reach me. In order to first OPEN up, I had to LET GO. Once I let go of the path that I was on, I was able to get more curious about my new path. I’ve always been a curious person, someone who loves to learn, but this past year I spent even more time getting curious both about the world and myself. I explored for the sake of exploring, with faith that good things were coming my way, and with no expectations for definite outcomes.

“When you let go of the need for any and all outcomes, life becomes a creative, magical adventure.”  ~Deepak Chopra

It’s been a magical year of change for me, and each day new opportunities and lessons are presenting themselves. This year wasn’t without its heartaches and trials. But I’ve learned to make the most of every single day and feel grateful for every moment. 

Letting go can feel super scary at first , but if you let go and then move forward with intention – chasing your dreams and putting the work in – this combination can lead to some pretty powerful results.

If you’d like to continue the conversation, comment below, send me an email at hello@melindadiorio.com, or subscribe to receive the newsletter, where I’ll be sharing more thoughts on living a magical life in the upcoming months.

These days you’ll find me teaching yoga and photographing fellow yoga teachers/events and engagements in NYC. Follow along on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter. (Oh, and I’ve joined this thing they call Snapchat. Although I’m just on it for the funny filters. 😉 Find me there @melindadiorio)

 

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Comments ( 7 )

  • Leslie Schipper

    This is really a perfect timing type read. Cheers to you and courage, connection, community and curiosity! So many good words begin with C. 😊 You’ve definitely got my mind swirling with some ideas.

  • Emily

    Love this so much Melinda! Very well said. I really liked reading about your past year like this. I’m so happy for you, you go girl!!

  • Karlie V

    Love this! I’m currently living in South Korea as a teacher. I’ve been doing so for the past two years. I’ve found that I’ve had to let go of a lot of things, watching great friends get married, being “settled down,” and missing important family events. But, someone once told me that it was a trade of joys. I didn’t get to do any of the things back home, but I experienced tons of amazing things I wouldn’t have any other way and learn way more about myself than I might have otherwise.

    Good writing!
    http://thetatteredpassport.wordpress.com

    • Melinda DiOrio

      Hi Karlie, thanks so much for sharing your story! That’s awesome that you’re living as a teacher in South Korea, and that you’re having an amazing experience! I love your honesty and positive perspective on things, and I’m so glad you enjoyed the post. I look forward to checking out your blog as well. 🙂 Thanks for following on Bloglovin!

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